She's Adopted

They just didn't tell her

Educate your Biological kids About Adoption

on February 8, 2013

two young girls laughing behind another girls back

 

Sometimes Adopted kids are  questioned on the “realness” of their family by their peers.  And you know you can’t expect every   single kid to have been educated on adoption, and inevitably your kids will be the ones educating their peers.  But is it too much to ask that other parents, whose families don’t have exposure to transracial families, take a couple minutes and explain it to them so that your kids aren’t always the center of the After-School Special on Adoption in the school play yard?  Because it’s already getting old, adoption is not a new “animal” in this country, you know?

In fact, I will make it really, really simple right now. Here’s a script.  You can ad-lib.  Freestyle  it.  Or just say this:

1. Sometimes kids have different skin colors from their parents. It could be because they are adopted, or because their parents are different races, or because they have a step mom or step dad.  It’s no big deal.  They are still real families.  There is nothing wrong or weird about families with different skin colors. (Insert examples from your own life here. Or have a come-to-Jesus meeting about diversifying your friendship circle).

2. When someone is adopted, their mom is just a mom.  The person who gave birth to them is called a “birth mom”.  Both of them are real moms.

3. It can be nosey or embarrassing to ask a kid if they are adopted or ask what happened to their birth mom, especially if you don’t know them.  That could make them feel bad, so don’t do it.  If you are curious, ask me about it and if I know the answer we can talk about it.

See? NOT HARD.

And while you are at it, you can throw in a bit about how some kids have parents that don’t live together, or have two mommies or daddies, etc. Because no child from unique family circumstances deserves to be singled out on the playground because we’ve failed to explain the world to our kids.

Books are a very good way to explain adoption to kids too.

 

Source: http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com

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