She's Adopted

They just didn't tell her



My name is Luciana Gualberto. I was born in Brazil and I am a late discovery adoptee, that is, I didn’t find out I was adopted until I was 40 years old. My blog tries to help adoptive parents understand why it’s important to tell their child they are adopted as soon as possible, and why not telling a child they are adopted early in life can be extremely damaging to the child, even when the child becomes an adult. My blog is pro-adoption. Choosing a child to become part of a family can be a warm and wonderful experience for both the child and the parents. My blog is my way of trying to reduce the misconception that an adopted child is somehow better off not knowing they are adopted. Nothing can be further from the truth.

Every person needs to know who they really are and where they came from. Every person should have this basic human right. Surprisingly, in many states in the U.S., they do not. Sealed adoption laws hide the truth from many adopted children, even after they are adults and know the truth. Adopted children are often prevented from obtaining important medical information and in some cases certain legal status such as obtaining a passport. These can be minor problems compared with the feeling of having been lied to about their true identity all of their life.

Read my blog to find out how a late discovery adoptee feels when they find out their parents didn’t tell them they were adopted until later in life. Learn how the adopted child is jolted into seeing the world and their entire life up to that point, in a shocking and often painful new way. If you are an adopted child, subscribe to my RSS feed and learn with me as I search for ways to heal myself and reach out to others who are adopted like me. If you are the parent of an adopted child or plan to adopt, read my blog to lean how you can protect your adopted child from these difficulties. Take it from me, telling an adopted child they are adopted will never make them love you less as parents, telling them will only help them love you more.


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5 responses to “About

  1. Alan Dixon says:

    Wonderful Lu. Your blog is just so needed in today’s world. Alan (UK)

  2. Shape Your Life says:

    hey! you’ve got an award! check my blog in an hour 🙂

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